{"id":20,"date":"2008-02-20T22:34:33","date_gmt":"2008-02-21T03:34:33","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/thestormypresent.com\/ocean\/2008\/02\/20\/on-what-a-difference-the-truth-makes\/"},"modified":"2008-02-20T22:36:05","modified_gmt":"2008-02-21T03:36:05","slug":"on-what-a-difference-the-truth-makes","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/thestormypresent.com\/ocean\/2008\/02\/20\/on-what-a-difference-the-truth-makes\/","title":{"rendered":"On What a Difference the Truth Makes"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u00a0I\u00a0am not bound to win, but I am bound to be true. I am not bound to succeed, but I am bound to live by the light that I have.- Abraham Lincoln<\/span><\/span><\/span>
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I learned this week that being upfront, especially in a relationship doesn’t truly get heard, and often has to be repeated. When I started this week, I had a positive, if normal outlook.\u00a0 It was, as always, a man’s outlook.\u00a0 Being nice gets you far, telling the truth gets you further.\u00a0 A few posts back, I had determined that all men lead lives of quiet desperation.\u00a0 I must say also that the things we want out of life are also complicated beyond measure. \u00a0 We bottle up inside, not understanding why we are unhappy.\u00a0 But are you unhappy? Yes, why, you can’t make the other person listen.\u00a0<\/p>\n

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You don’t understand, why they don’t understand.<\/p>\n

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Why do we hear the things we want? Who knows. Makes us feel better, makes us not seem the cold callous ingrate?\u00a0 The truth does hurt, but it’s better to keep with the truth, even so.<\/p>\n

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Sometimes people believe I cannot hear the truth. \u00a0 What I cannot believe is that they have been lying to me for so long.\u00a0 I feel pain at the truth, but less so that i’ve been made a fool off, or that i’ve been leading myself on. \u00a0 I’ve resolved to tell the truth -mostly- in my personal life, even if that’s not what someone wants to hear. \u00a0<\/p>\n

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It truly is a sad realization to realize i’m now in their shoes, as I am telling others the same thing, and They are not listening, or devastated.\u00a0 How do you say to someone that truly likes you, that you just want to move slowly? It has nothing about not liking them, but spending every waking moment talking and calling them is actually not who you are?\u00a0 Does this fact alone make the person incompatible? Wrong?<\/p>\n

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Is my lack of bending what’s incorrect?\u00a0 It isn’t.\u00a0 Each relationship teaches us something; a cold hard fact about who we are and what we want. Expectation of an outcome 3 year down the road is day dreaming.\u00a0 Having a series of long relationships is not being afraid of commitment, it’s learning.\u00a0 Is sticking with one relationship and making your partner’s life a living hell because you are unhappy too? What’s worse, lying to yourself, or lying to them?<\/p>\n

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Having instated this truth factor, i’ve so far pissed off a friend, lost someone close, and yes, found myself writing after several days away.\u00a0<\/p>\n

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And yet, clear of mind and soul.<\/p>\n

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The point:\u00a0 Don’t play with other people’s hearts, and don’t put up with people that play with yours.\u00a0 Invest as much as they invest,; but at anytime it seems lopsided, get out if it cannot be resolved. You can live with the pain; and so can they.\u00a0<\/p>\n

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In the end, the truth will indeed set you free.\u00a0 Tell your boss what you feel. Tell your coworker they are screwing up.\u00a0 Keep your eye on the ball\/prize and be honest to someone when you realize they aren’t listening, especially in a personal relationship.\u00a0 It will save you.\u00a0<\/p>\n

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Just be human when you explain.\u00a0<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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